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Rebel Girl You Are The Queen Of My World
“Do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it” is honestly the best thing you can say to me when I say im sad/in pain etc.
this is really good advice to say to anyone who is upset
Alsooo may I add: “do you want advice or do you just want to vent?” Is also good to add because often unsoliticited advice can further hurt someone who really just wanted a listening ear.
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The I’m Not Like Other Girls Trope
She wears tennis shoes at all times.
She plays sports.
She reads the classics guys, and not that stupid Pride and Prejudice bullshit.
She’s not emotional and thinks other girls like that can just move the hell on.
Margaritas and fine wines are for pussies, and you’ll only see her down whiskey and vodka shots like a hardened bitch.
She could give zero fucks about her looks, and despite not doing a thing to her hair or face, is drop dead gorgeous.
Not that she’d ever believe it, and she doesn’t wanna be gorgeous anyway. If she did, then she’d be like those other bimbo bitches that walk the world around her.
Cause, you see…
She’s not like other girls.
She’s different.
Whenever I see this sort of shit in a book, TV show, fanfiction, manga, or whatever the hell medium you put in my face, I will immediately give up on it. For some reason, female writers have decided to make these protagonists that seem to disdain anything traditionally feminine, and those women that act traditionally feminine are weak or below the protagonist. Even when they get with their male love interest, some of them will have a hard time committing because now she’s no different to the ‘sluts’ around her despite the fact the male protagonist was interested in her because she’s so ‘different’.
The truth is, and I love saying it, the protagonist is not special, and they are not above their other female peers because they choose to present themselves in a more traditionally ‘masculine’ manner. So having the protagonist slut shame and sneer at their associates is almost alarming.
Maybe these writers don’t mean it, but having these tomboys be decidedly superior is almost saying that feminity in itself is a vice or drawback. Feminity seems to be something that the female character overcame, and she should be given a prize and looked up to for that, instead of overcoming an actual character flaw or a plot point that the book threw at her.
Yes!
Strong Female Characters are great to see.
But why can’t a strong female character be traditionally feminine?
Why does she have to fight and compete with men? Why can’t she be gentle and nurturing?
Look at Arwen in Lord of the Rings. Do we see her in a battle? No. But she’s strong because she’s able to turn her back on the prospect of immortality for the love of Aragon and the son they’ll have together. Galadriel fights with magic and she’s so.powerful that she’s more like a goddess then an elf. But she loses not one drop of femininity. And she’s full of love and tenderness.
Look at the mother characters in a lot of children’s classics. They’re gentle, warm souls but they’re the anchors of their children’s lives and the beating hearts of their families. That’s a feminine strength that we need.
A woman fighting to protect those she loves. OK, nothing wrong with those in moderation. Momma Bear is loving but can be fierce as a defender, after all.
But spare us please from the constant stream of women that can fight and defeat a group of men without a scratch or hair out of place. It’s got so boring.
Star Wars Rey, for one. I had such high hopes of her. And so horribly dashed.
Where are her struggles as she discovers how to use The Force, not mention her technical know how? Where’s the puzzle of her background, perhaps slowly being revealed, piece by piece? Then we get an idea of where she got these incredible powers from.
She makes me think of Greek Goddess Athena. Who burst fully grown and armed for action from Zeus’ head.
Amazing, yes. But not human, not sharing in our weaknesses and trials, therefore, not relatable.
Reblogging for the good point added!
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Why does being a woman put you at greater risk of having anxiety?
Part biology, part what we teach our kids about their place in the world.So we’re teaching girls to be anxious wrecks and boys to disregard the possibility of consequences for incautious behavior.
This explains a lot of things. Like… why women are anxious wrecks and men are frequently surprised when it turns out their actions do in fact have consequences.
And why men don’t bother asking for help even when they really need it, and thus more frequently die from treatable health conditions (including depression), while women end up getting a broad stereotype of being hypochondriacs (and then having a hard time getting treatment for legitimate health concerns).https://www.ted.com/talks/caroline_paul_to_raise_brave_girls_encourage_adventure/transcript
(Source: yayfeminism, via crystalroca)
That was when you learned that when a boy says I love you he means I am getting ready to be inconsistent with you now.
—Edwin Bodney, “When a Boy Tells You He Loves You”
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Two girls in close embrace as they skate together. Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. ©Israel Dejene
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